I never really understood the notion of self-love. I always thought it was a bit cringe or something that people focused on after a break-up. But once I hit my twenties I finally realised why self love is so important. For one reason or another life gets in the way and our own health and well-being goes right out the window. The older we get the less we tend to look after ourselves physically and mentally. When was the last time you had some ‘you’ time?
Self-love is not only about looking after your mind and body but it’s also about loving yourself unconditionally, flaws included. It’s about discovering who you are as a person, the things you like and don’t like and being true to yourself. We live in a world where we seek validation and approval from others. We compare ourselves and criticize our own decisions. In some cases, we become our own worst enemy. This is why learning to love yourself is so important because if you do not love yourself, how do you expect other people to love you. If you are constantly putting yourself down, this is the image you are portraying to the world. When you practice self-love and accept yourself fully, amazing things will happen. You will no longer settle for half-ass relationships or not going for that promotion that you’ve been dreaming about. You will have the confidence to strive for what you truly want in life with no regrets. You won’t need to seek validation from anyone because you know you’ve got your own back.
Some people have a misconception of self-love. It not about being selfish and excluding yourself from the world. It’s about understanding and appreciating who you are as a person. Once you are aware of who you are and want you want life you can start to put this into practice.
For the next month, I want you to focus on yourself as much as possible. Do all of the things that you want to do. Run yourself a bath, order a take-away, get a baby sitter and have a night out. Write a list of all of the things you want to achieve this year. Note down the things that make you happy and stop doing things that make you unhappy. Once you learn to love yourself completely everything else will follow.
Love Demi Enchanted