I never really understood what it meant to have a ‘healthy mind’. It wasn’t until I read Jen Sincero’s book called ‘How to be a bad ass’ that I realised how many negative thoughts I had floating around in my head. Think of your mind as a mini you. I always imagined my mini me to be like the Lizzie McGuire cartoon (who looked like me of course) and boy is she a bi**h. Not only did she make me second guess every decision I’ve have made, but she is also a procrastinator.
Some of you might be thinking ‘what is this girl talking about’ but take some time out today to really think about your thoughts. How many thoughts are positive? Are you constantly worrying or thinking about the future. Do you want to do something but the little voice inside your head makes you think otherwise? That is your mini me and she/he is working against you.
It’s taken me a while to shake her off and don’t get me wrong, I still have some unhelpful thoughts but I have managed to change my mindset for the better. We only have one life and we need to make the most of it. Always remember that anything is possible! 30 years ago the internet didn’t even exist, yet here I am sitting in a cool cafe blogging about personal development and well being.
By having a good, positive mindset you will be able to overcome anything that life throws at you. So next time your mini me decides to show up give them a little flick and carry on with the rest of your day. Be as positive as possible and focus on what makes you happy.
Love Demi Enchanted
So it was my birthday on Friday the 13th October (spooky). To be honest the only scaring/annoying thing that happened was my WiFi has stopped working and the light bulb in my room went out. So, I am another year older and wiser. I always get really nostalgic around my birthday, I usually end up crying and stuffing my face with cake while egging myself on “YOU CAN DO IT BRUCE”.
But this year I feel different. I’m motivated to make some much needed changes and get my life together, woohoo go me! Birthdays give you a fresh start, it allows you to let go of the past year and look toward’s the future. I am hoping that this time next year, I will have made some necessary changes. Yesterday I was speaking to my friend Nicki and we were saying how much we wish that the wisdom that we had now, we had when we were 18 years old. But I guess life doesn’t work like that.
Always see your birthday as a new start, another year older and another year wiser. Write a letter to yourself for your next birthday and include all of your goals and dreams. Include all of your feelings, happy and sad. Then seal it up in an envelope and keep it somewhere safe so that you can open it on your next birthday. Not only will this act as motivation for you to reach all of your goals but it will also be nice to see how far you have come. See it as a little present to yourself.
Love Demi Enchanted
“Realize you were born for greatness. Realize it is a journey, recognize it is a process, be willing to take the learning curve. Dream big and expansively. You have the power to change your life.”- Margie Aliprandi
Some of you might think i’m crazy but I am a big believer in signs. I believe that the universe sends us little signs to point us in the right direction. Lately I have been feeling a little lost. I have recently come out of a two year relationship. I have also been at my current job for three years and I just feel a little deflated. I have been trying to work out my next move but not too sure which direction to take.
Then all of a sudden, I started to see the saying;
Live your best life
At first I thought it was a coincidence, but the more I started to hear/see it I am convinced it is a sign. I first saw this statement on Twitter, which I admit is no surprise. Then a few days later I was on the bus to work and a group of girls my age were chatting when out of nowhere, one of the girls turned to her friend and said “are you living your best life”. Which ultimately got me thinking, am I living mine?
Then about a week later I went to a friend’s house and out of the corner of my eye there was a magazine on the floor and the front page said ‘Live your best life’. Now that I had seen/heard this saying a few times, I noticed it straight away and smiled. It wasn’t until I went for a meeting this week with a client from work that it finally hit me. It was 7 pm and we were waiting for the meeting to begin. One of my clients were chatting away about her recent holiday to the Maldives (very jel). One of my other clients must have overheard and said “well we can all see you’re living your best life” and that is when it clicked. Some of you will think it is a coincidence but I think it’s a sign, its time for me to switch it up and start living my best life.
To make sure that I am not going crazy I googled it (yes, google is the answer to everything) and guess what guys, I am not going mad. The universe sending you signs is a thing and it all leads back to the law of attraction.
It’s so easy to get caught up with life that we end up in situations that make us unhappy or jobs that make us miserable. But not anymore, it’s time to go after what we want, it’s time to live our best life.
Universe, you don’t have to tell me twice. This is exactly what I am going to do.
Love Demi Enchanted
This is a pretty good question because as a 25-year-old woman I would say that I most definitely haven’t got my life together just yet. I am known for drinking way too many cocktails and moaning that I should have won the lottery by now. However, last year February I had to learn the hardest lesson of all; family is everything. Don’t get me wrong, I always knew family was important but as a teen/young woman you take them for granted.
My 18-year-old brother died suddenly in February 2016 and I must admit I still don’t believe it to this day. I never thought in a million years that I would need to worry about my little brother dying. It’s one of those things you hear about but you think it will never happen to you. You hit a state of shock, a brick wall. For the first six months, I walked around like a zombie. I became so angry that the world just carried on living whilst my entire world had collapsed. Dealing with grief and trying to offer support to my mum and sister is incredibly difficult. This tragedy will haunt us forever and every day I am smacked in the face with different emotions. The loss of someone is never easy and the pain DOES NOT go away.
The only lesson I can learn from this is to treasure everyone and everything because you never know when you will have your last moment with them. I know life gets in the way and mundane things such as work, arguments etc stops us from remembering what is important, but we must snap out of it. Doing well for yourself, getting that promotion, buying your dream car and living the life of luxury will mean nothing if you don’t have your loved ones around you. Without making this post too depressing, I want to use my story as a reminder for us all to be so grateful for all the good things in life. Say I love you every day, spend more time with your family and always do the things that make you happy.
I had to learn the hard way that is life is so tough, we will all have good and bad days. There will be times when you want to give up but don’t! life is so precious so embrace it and have as much fun as possible. This experience has shaped me into a completely different person. I am grateful, fearless and want to make my brother very proud. There will be a time when everyone will go through the pain of losing someone they love but just know you are not alone. Life is short and we only get one chance at it so if you are currently unhappy with your current situation, shake up your entire life. Go after your dream job, get a horse, make a family or move to Hawaii. Do all the things that scare you as this will make life worthwhile. One last thing before I go, always be grateful and never take anyone or anything for granted.
My do’s and don’t for the week;
- DO go on a major shopping spree on payday and live off beans on toast for the rest of the month.
- DON’T stalk your ex on Instagram, it will ruin your entire week!
- DO buy glamour magazine every month just to read Dawn O’ porters column.
- DON’T compare yourselves to others, you are a badass.
- DO snooze your alarm, stay in bed longer and blame TFL for the reason why you’re late.
- DON’T eat that whole packet of biscuits, you will regret it when you finally make it to the gym.
Love Demi Enchanted